How To Fall In Love With Your Best Friend: 14 Steps

It doesn’t feel fair to him, but I also want to support her and talk her through how she is feeling. “Any time a man or woman has expressed disbelief in the existence of opposite-sex, platonic friendships , it has always been due to a serious case of projection. Just because you can’t maintain platonic, opposite-sex friendships doesn’t mean that everyone else is suspect. Many a time, best friends experience a rush of feelings and end up as sex buddies.

One of the hardest parts about rejection or not being with the person we care about is the feeling of helplessness it can create. No matter how strong your feelings are, they can’t change how others feel. Take control back from that feeling of helplessness by taking charge of your life and your actions. After considering your feelings, the feelings of your friend and the feelings of your crush, you’ll have to determine what you think the best course of action is.

If you need prayer, ask other women from your church for prayer, or ask your guy friend for prayer but don’t share all the personal details. With guy friends from church, it’s also important to set boundaries with how often you pray together, and what you pray about. And even if you’ve never been physical with each other, this emotional intimacy can result in having feelings for each other. And set a boundary not to text or talk to each other day. This is what people in a relationship do, and talking every single day creates too much emotional intimacy. Even if you’re single and you want to check out that new Italian restaurant in town, hanging out in romantic settings with guy friends would not be smart.

You can’t be trusted.

Give it a fresh start, like any other new relationship. After transitioning from friendship to a relationship, you may think that you already know what your partner wants romantically. Always check with your partner to see what goals and desires they have as these may change over time, and in different situations. If you catch yourself guessing what they might like, stop and ask them about it to double check.

Struggling with envy? Be supportive

Back in 1992, researchers found that a female partner’s “perceived network support” increased the stability of her relationship. Whether for good reasons or superficial, knowing you have your mates’ approval can help you feel more content. Basically, you will show all idates the normal signs of falling in love even if you’re still trying to act like friends. Most of the time, other people will notice this much sooner than you, but more on that later. No one hears more about how guys are “all animals” than a woman with a male best friend.

Sometimes life events can cause people to seek comfort, stability, excitement, or validation from other people in our lives who they don’t genuinely want to be with. I wanted to talk with male friend first because I truly don’t know how he is or what has changed in our friendship. After saying I’m fine, she finally drags it out of me (lying isn’t my thing).

Don’t put pressure on yourself to date if you’re not ready. If you get into a relationship, take it slow and allow your feelings to develop naturally. You may feel embarrassed about the situation, but speaking to others can help you appreciate that heartache affects us all and there’s nothing to be ashamed of.

They have become your top priority, unlike any of your other friends. This is a clear sign that your feelings for them are not just friendly. If they put you first too, they probably feel the same way about you. Even when you’re with a group of friends, you sit close to each other and leave to be alone together.

This happens when friends are on the way to becoming lovers. How to know when your friendship is turning into something more? If you would seek out each other even in a group, it’s a clear, tell-tale sign. You might have to be a little aware to spot this one. Often regarded as mere banter, flirting among friends is one of the stealthier signs of friendship to relationship transition. If your friend has been hinting that they want something more than a casual friendship, then you should pick up the clues about their feelings.

Due to their history of normalizing unhealthy behaviors, many family trauma survivors struggle to identify red flags in dating partners. Some people fall into yo-yo relationship patterns in which they repeatedly leave their partners only to expect reconciliation later. We wanted to see if these best-friend romances were really better. To do that, we asked poll respondents, “How satisfied are you with your current relationship – extremely, very, somewhat, not too, or not at all satisfied?

By always being considerate about each other’s needs, checking up on each other, and not taking the relationship for granted, they made sure they were always sailing smoothly. Being a best friend, you are privy to the scars of their past. You must have been the first one to know what went wrong in the previous relationship and how bad it broke your partner. This is an important tip to keep in mind when you are dating your best friend. I had a friend who was still transitioning from best friends into the boyfriend stage. She wasn’t comfortable but didn’t tell her boyfriend.

For example, watch how they behave around you to see if they treat you differently than everyone else, which may be a sign they have feelings for you. If you think your crush is more interested in you than your friend, you may want to be honest and tell them about your feelings. However, remember that doing this will probably damage your relationship with your friend going forward.

Bring Another Friend To Hang Out

You can use this information now that you’re dating them. Just make sure that they’re romantic and work more on emotional than physical intimacy for now. When you were friends, it might have been okay to meet them without putting any effort into looking good. Now that you’re dating, you should act the way you did with any of your previous partners. Put effort into impressing each other now that you’re more than friends. Friends like to help their friends hook up, whether it’s with other people or with each other.

And if you don’t believe me, take Hollywood for example. If you just hang out like you normally do, then it will just feel like a friendship like it always does. Also, they can easily say no and laugh about it if they want to. Then, you can move on and stay friends without any awkwardness.